“There are many and various particulars, which, by a kind of natural instinct, every one judges to be right, and expects to meet with, from those with, whom he converses. Such as mutual benevolence and respect; a desire of pleasing and obliging each other; and the like. Nothing therefore ought to be said or done, which may by any means discover, that those, whose company we are in, are not much beloved, or, at least, much esteemed by us.”

Source: Galateo: Or, A Treatise on Politeness and Delicacy of Manners, p. 27

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Roman Catholic archbishop 1503–1556

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