“Children need admiration rather than affection.”

“Oh, Lizzy! do anything rather than marry without affection.”

“A mixture of admiration and pity is one of the surest recipes for affection.”

“Tenderness is greater than love. I do not admire carnal love when it is by itself and bare. I do not admire its disorderly selfish paroxysms, so grossly short-lived. And yet without love the attachment of two human beings is always weak. Love must be added to affection. The things it contributes to a union are absolutely needed — exclusiveness, intimacy, and simplicity.”

“Too often we give children answers to remember rather than problems to solve.”

“Good writers have two things in common: they prefer to be understood rather than admired; and they do not write for knowing and over-acute readers.”

“Our culture rightly admires risk-takers, but we need our “heed-takers” more than ever.”

“Why should men leave great fortunes to their children? If this is done from affection, is it not misguided affection?”

“You need a change of soul rather than a change of climate.”

“Women’s loyalty has to be earned with trust and affection, rather than barbaric rituals. The time has come to leave the old ways of suffering behind”