
“As love without esteem is volatile and capricious; esteem without love is languid and cold.”
John Hawkesworth, The Adventurer, No. 36 (10 March, 1753)
Misattributed
Les femmes tiennent et doivent toutes tenir à être honorées, car sans l'estime elles n'existent plus. Aussi est-ce le premier sentiment qu'elles demandent à l'amour.
Source: A Woman of Thirty (1842), Ch. III: At Thirty Years.
Les femmes tiennent et doivent toutes tenir à être honorées, car sans l'estime elles n'existent plus. Aussi est-ce le premier sentiment qu'elles demandent à l'amour.
A Woman of Thirty (1842)
“As love without esteem is volatile and capricious; esteem without love is languid and cold.”
John Hawkesworth, The Adventurer, No. 36 (10 March, 1753)
Misattributed
“Whether there can be love without esteem?”
Oh yes, thou dear, pure one! Love is of many kinds. Rousseau proves that by his reasoning and still better by his example. La pauvre Maman and Madame N____ love in very different fashions. But I believe there are many kinds of love which do not appear in Rousseau’s life. You are very right in saying that no true and enduring love can exist without cordial esteem; that every other draws regret after it, and is unworthy of any noble soul. One word about pietism. Pietists place religion chiefly in externals; in acts of worship performed mechanically, without aim, as bond-service to god; in orthodoxy of opinion; and they have this among other characteristic marks, that they give themselves more solicitude about other’s piety than their own. It is not right to hate these men,-we should hate no one, but to me they are very contemptible, for their character implies the most deplorable emptiness of the head, and the most sorrowful perversion of the heart. Such my dear friend never can be; she cannot become such, even were it possible-which it is not-that her character were perverted; she can never become such, her nature has too much reality in it. You trust in Providence, your anticipation of a future life, are wise, and Christian. I hope, I may venture to speak of myself, that no one will take me to be a pietist or stiff formalist, but I know no feeling more thoroughly interwoven with my soul than these are.
Johann Fichte Letter to Johanna Rahn from Johann Gottlieb Fichte's popular works: Memoir and The Nature of the Scholar https://archive.org/stream/johanngottlieb00fichuoft#page/14/mode/1up
Original: La donna è un essere speciale da stimare e rispettare. Un dono esistenziale, da amare ed ammirare.
Source: prevale.net
Part 2, chapter 1 http://books.google.com/books?id=6DPQAAAAMAAJ&q=%22intimacies+between+women+go+backwards+beginning+with+revelations+and+ending+up+in+small+talk+without+loss+of+esteem%22&pg=PA172#v=onepage
The Death of the Heart (1939)
“No man is esteemed for gay garments but by fools and women.”
Source: Instructions to his Son and to Posterity (published 1632), Chapter VII
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, iii. 7
Misattributed
“One has lived long enough if one has had time to win the love of women and the esteem of men.”
On a toujours assez vécu, quand on a eu le temps d’acquérir l’amour des femmes et l’estime des hommes.
Letter 79: Le Vicomte de Valmont to la Marquise de Merteuil. Trans. P.W.K. Stone (1961). http://fr.wikisource.org/wiki/Les_Liaisons_dangereuses_-_Lettre_79
Les liaisons dangereuses (1782)
“Wedded love is founded on esteem.”
Act IV, Scene V, p. 45
Mariamne: A Tragedy (1723)
“To know, to esteem, to love, and then to part,
Makes up life's tale to many a feeling heart!”
On taking Leave of ———— (1817)
Bartlett's Familiar Quotations, 10th ed. (1919)