“Either you have a rival or you don't. If you have one, you must set out to please, so as to be preferred to him. If you don't have one, you must still please so as to obviate the possibility of having one.”

—  Pierre Choderlos de Laclos , book Les Liaisons dangereuses

Ou vous avez un rival ou vous n'en n'avez pas. Si vous en avez un, il faut plaire pour lui être préféré; si vous n'en n'avez pas, il faut encore plaire pour éviter d'en avoir.
Letter 152: La Marquise de Merteuil to le Vicomte de Valmont. Trans. P.W.K. Stone (1961). http://fr.wikisource.org/wiki/Les_Liaisons_dangereuses_-_Lettre_152
Les liaisons dangereuses (1782)

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Ou vous avez un rival, ou vous n’en avez pas. Si vous en avez un, il faut plaire pour lui être préféré; si vous n’en avez pas, il faut plaire encore pour éviter d’en avoir.

Les Liaisons dangereuses, 1782, Marquise de Merteuil
Variant: Ou vous avez un rival ou vous n'en n'avez pas. Si vous en avez un, il faut plaire pour lui être préféré; si vous n'en n'avez pas, il faut encore plaire pour éviter d'en avoir.

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