“Families break up when they get hints you don't intend and miss hints that you do.”

—  Robert Frost

As quoted in Bartlett's Book of Love Quotations (1994) <!-- cited either to "Comment" or as a comment, this may have been attributed to Frost at least as early as 1962-->
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Context: The greatest thing in family life is to take a hint when a hint is intended — and not to take a hint when a hint isn't intended.

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