“I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more positively--because idealization of his parents was essential for his survival.”

Source: Thou Shalt Not Be Aware : Society's Betrayal of the Child

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Swiss psychologist 1923–2010

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