“One gets so used to one's own horrors, one forgets how they must seem to other people.”
Source: The Thirteenth Tale
Source: The Second Summer of the Sisterhood
“One gets so used to one's own horrors, one forgets how they must seem to other people.”
Source: The Thirteenth Tale
UN Speech on the HeForShe campaign (2014)
Context: We don’t often talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes, but I can see that that they are, and that when they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence.
If men don’t have to be aggressive in order to be accepted, women won’t feel compelled to be submissive. If men don’t have to control, women won’t have to be controlled.
Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong… It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum instead of two sets of opposing ideals.
If we stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by who we are — we can all be freer and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom.
I want men to take up this mantle. So that their daughters, sisters and mothers can be free from prejudice but also so that their sons have permission to be vulnerable and human too — reclaim those parts of themselves they abandoned and in doing so be a more true and complete version of themselves.
On the lack of attention he and Andy Hurley get
My Heart Will Always Be The B-Side To My Tongue (2004), Rolling Stone Interview
Source: Das Gewicht der Welt [The Weight of the World], p. 7
“How about we give each other everything we can and not blame each other for what we can’t.”
Source: The Sweetest Thing
RTV Rijnmond De moord op Pim Fortuyn http://www.rijnmond.nl/Homepage/Nieuws?view=/News%2FPagina_items%2Fdossiers%2FDe%20moord%20op%20Pim%20Fortuyn, Biografie Pim Fortuyn auf Google Sites http://sites.google.com/site/superlutser/biopim
2013, "Let Freedom Ring" Ceremony (August 2013)
Context: The March on Washington teaches us that we are not trapped by the mistakes of history; that we are masters of our fate. But it also teaches us that the promise of this nation will only be kept when we work together. We’ll have to reignite the embers of empathy and fellow feeling, the coalition of conscience that found expression in this place 50 years ago. And I believe that spirit is there, that truth force inside each of us. I see it when a white mother recognizes her own daughter in the face of a poor black child. I see it when the black youth thinks of his own grandfather in the dignified steps of an elderly white man. It’s there when the native-born recognizing that striving spirit of the new immigrant; when the interracial couple connects the pain of a gay couple who are discriminated against and understands it as their own. That’s where courage comes from -- when we turn not from each other, or on each other, but towards one another, and we find that we do not walk alone. That’s where courage comes from.