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Andrew Solomon, né à Manhattan le 30 octobre 1963, est un écrivain et journaliste américain.

✵ 30. octobre 1963
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“A sense of humor is the best indicator that you will recover; it is often the best indicator that people will love you. Sustain that and you have hope.”

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Andrew Solomon livre The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

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“I believe that words are strong, that they can overwhelm what we fear when fear seems more awful than life is good.”

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Andrew Solomon livre The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

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“I wish the autistic child I have did not exist, and I had a different [nonautistic] child instead.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 1 Son, p 37.
Contexte: When parents say, "I wish my child did not have autism," what they're really saying is "I wish the autistic child I have did not exist, and I had a different [nonautistic] child instead." Read that again. This is what we hear when you mourn over our existence. This is what we hear when you pray for a cure. This is what we know, when you tell us of your fondest hopes and dreams for us: that your greatest wish is that one day we will cease to be, and strangers you can love will move in behind our faces. —Jim Sinclair

“Any of us can be a better version of himself, but none of us can be someone else.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 12 Father, p. 687.
Contexte: A wise psychiatrist once said to me, "People want to get better, but they don't want to change." But I would propose that it is only by allowing people born with horizontal identities not to change that one allows them to get better. Any of us can be a better version of himself, but none of us can be someone else.

“People want to get better, but they don't want to change.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 12 Father, p. 687.
Contexte: A wise psychiatrist once said to me, "People want to get better, but they don't want to change." But I would propose that it is only by allowing people born with horizontal identities not to change that one allows them to get better. Any of us can be a better version of himself, but none of us can be someone else.

“I want more than anything for my children to be happy, and I love them because they are sad, and the erratic project of kneading that sadness into joy is the engine of my life as a father, as a son, as a friend—and as a writer.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 12 Father, p. 701.

“Depression is the flaw in love. To be creatures who love, we must be creatures who can despair at what we lose, and depression is the mechanism of that despair.”

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Andrew Solomon livre The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

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“Grief is depression in proportion to circumstance; depression is grief out of proportion to circumstance.”

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Andrew Solomon livre The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

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“Antonin Artaud wrote on one of his drawings, "Never real and always true," and that is how depression feels. You know that it is not real, that you are someone else, and yet you know that it is absolutely true.”

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Andrew Solomon livre The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

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“Depressed people cannot lead a revolution because depressed people can barely manage to get out of bed and put on their shoes and socks.”

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“I can see the beauty of glass objects fully at the moment when they slip from my hand”

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“I was overpowered by being in the world, by other people and their lives I couldn’t lead, their jobs I couldn’t do - overpowered even by jobs I would never want or need to do.”

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“I regret everything because it has just finished, and already when I was twelve, I lamented the time that had gone by. Even in the best of spirits, it's always been as though I wrestle with the present in a vain effort to stop its becoming the past.”

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Andrew Solomon livre The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

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“Psychologically, I will not have to seek far if I decide to kill myself, because in my mind and heart I am more ready for this than for the unplanned daily tribulations that mark off the mornings and afternoons.”

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Andrew Solomon livre The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

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“If you wake up feeling no pain, you know you're dead. (Russian expression)”

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Andrew Solomon livre The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

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“Some people are trapped by the belief that love comes in finite quantities, and that our kind of love exhausts the supply upon which they need to draw. I do not accept competitive models of love, only additive ones.”

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Andrew Solomon livre Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity

Source: Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity

“You don’t think in depression that you’ve put on a grey veil and are seeing the world through the haze of a bad mood. You think that the veil has been taken away, the veil of happiness, and that now you’re seeing truly.”

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Source: The Noonday Demon

“I chose fat and functional over slender and miserable.”

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Andrew Solomon livre The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

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“That, in essence, is the catastrophe of suicide for those who survive: not only the loss of someone, but the loss of the chance to persuade that person to act differently, the loss of the chance to connect.”

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Andrew Solomon livre The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

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“There is so much pain in the world, and most of these people keep theirs secret, rolling through agonizing lives in invisible wheelchairs, dressed in invisible bodycasts.”

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Andrew Solomon livre The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

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“I started this book to forgive my parents and ended it by becoming a parent. Understanding backward liberated me to live forward.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 12 Father, p. 677.

“In the subconscious fantasies that make conception look so alluring, it is often ourselves that we would like to see live forever, not someone with a personality of his own.”

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Far from the Tree

“Insofar as I have written a self-help book, it is a how-to manual for receptivity: a description of how to tolerate what cannot be cured, and an argument that cures are not always appropriate even when they are feasible.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 12 Father, p. 701-702.

“Difference unites us. While each of these experiences can isolate those who are affected, together they compose an aggregate of millions whose struggles connect them profoundly. The exceptional is ubiquitous; to be entirely typical is the rare and lonely state.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 1 Son, p 4.

“I espouse reproductive libertarianism, because when everyone has the broadest choice, love itself expands. The affection my family have found in one another is not a better love, but it is another love, and just as species diversity is crucial to sustain the planet, this diversity strengthens the ecosphere of kindness. The road less traveled by, as it turns out, leads to pretty much the same place.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 12 Father, p. 700.

“Insofar as our children resemble us, they are our most precious admirers, and insofar as they differ, they can be our most vehement distractors. From the beginning, we tempt them into imitation of us and long for what may be life's most profound compliment: their choosing to live according to our own system of values. Though many of us take pride in how different we are from our parents, we are endlessly sad at how different our children are from us.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 1 Son, p 1-2.

“Children ensnared me the moment I connected fatherhood with loss, but I am not sure I would have noticed that if I hadn't been immersed in this research. Encountering so much strange love, I fell into its bewitching patterns and saw how splendor can illuminate even the most abject vulnerabilities. I had witnessed and learned the terrifying joy of unbearable responsibility, recognized how it conquers everything else. Sometimes, I had thought the heroic parents in this book were fools, enslaving themselves to a life's journey with their alien children, trying to breed identity out of misery. I was startled to learn that my research had built me a plank, and that I was ready to join them on their ship.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 12 Father, p. 702.

“I'm not responsible for my child and who she's become, but I am responsible to her, and she is a wonderful person. I love her. I don't know if you need to know anything else, but that's all I need to know.”

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--Carol
Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 11 Transgender, p 671.

“Our children are not us: they carry throwback genes and recessive traits and are subject right from the start to environmental stimuli beyond our control. And yet we are our children; the reality of being a parent never leaves those who have braved the metamorphosis.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 1 Son, p 1.

“Most of the parents I interviewed for this book said they would never want other children than the ones they had, which at first seemed surprising given the challenges their children embody. But why do any of us prefer our own children, all of them defective in some regard, to others real or imagined? If some glorious angel descended into my living room and offered to exchange my children for other, better children—brighter, kinder, funnier, more loving, more disciplined, more accomplished—I would clutch the ones I have and, like most parents, pray away the atrocious specter.”

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Source: Far from the Tree, Ch. 12 Father, p. 698.

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