Warren Farrell: Quotes about men (page 3)

“Feminists often discuss women having two jobs: work and children. True. But no one discusses those divorced and remarried men who have three jobs: work, and two sets of children to nurture and financially support.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 163.

Women , Men , Children , Support

“[H]umans tend to start the process of change by acknowledging themselves—thus blacks asserted black pride and black is beautiful; women declared I am woman, I am strong; men are saying I am man, I am okay. After a quarter of a century of male bashing, that’s not a bad start.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part IV: Where do we go from here, p. 361.

Women , Men , Beauty , Strong

“Both sexes allow men dentists inside our mouths, but, well, have you ever let a man who is a dental hygienist inside your mouth? The man must earn his way to our private places in a way not required of a woman--he must become the doctor or the dentist, or forget it.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 181.

Men , Sex , Way , Forgetting

“Together, we came to understand how we beg men to express feelings, but then when men do express feelings, we call it sexism, male chauvinism, or backlash.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. xxvii.

Men , Feeling , Understanding

“Most women’s ideal is to not be sexual until nine conditions are met: physical attraction; respect; emotional compatibility; intelligence; singleness; success (or potential ); being asked out; being paid for; and the man risking rejection by initiating the first kiss…. Men want sex as long as only one condition is met—physical attraction.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 13.

Women , Men , Sex , Intelligence

“Both sexes work on their lines before they appear onstage. His lines are a lifetime of work; her introductory 'line' is her appearance--or her lack of lines. Just as careers give men power, so beauty gives women power. But just as the comparison between herself and the most beautiful women makes a woman feel powerless, so the comparison between himself and the most successful men makes a man feel powerless.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 106.

Women , Men , Beauty , Sex

“Perhaps the most prevailing expectation of men is our Superman expectation: the fear we are merely Clark Kents who won't be accepted unless we are a Superman.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 96.

Men , Fear

“The belief that men don’t need help is part of the problem.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Men , Problem , Help , Parting

“Our love for children is so immediate in part because we feel their powerlessness immediately; conversely, part of the way we deny our love for men is by denying men’s powerlessness. Too often we have confused love for men with respect for them, especially for their power to take care of us---which is really just love for ourselves.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 360.

Love , Men , Children , Way

“Men’s immediate path from the Insanity Track to the Sanity Track is in demanding that both sexes have the freedom to strike a balance between homeplace and workplace. Men must expect their wives to financially support them to be fathers as much as they now financially support their wives to be mothers. Women must have our approval to marry the warrior of love rather than the warrior of money.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 212.

Love , Women , Men , Money

“Look under the “Love and Friendship” section and see dozens of cards designed for women to send to women, most bashing men, and virtually none saying anything loving about men.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Love , Women , Men , Friendship

“Women are socialized to take advantage of four informal options for emotional support: husbands; womenfriends; children; and parents. Men are socialized to take advantage of only one of these informal options: their wife or womanfriend.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Men , Children , Support

“When women are at the height of their beauty power and exercise it, we call it marriage. When men are at the height of their success power and exercise it, we call it a mid-life crisis.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 103.

Life , Women , Men , Marriage

“The sexist perception that violence by anyone against only women is anti-woman while violence by a woman against only men is just generic violence creates a political demand for laws that are even more protective of women.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 228.

Women , Men , Law

“People Who Get Higher Pay Require Less Security. ITEM. It's 2004. I am presenting Why Men Earn More to the sales and marketing teams of my publisher (AMACOM). To illustrate financial risk as one of the ways to higher pay, I ask everyone in the room who is paid by commission to stand up. Eight men stand; no women. I then ask those paid by salary to stand: About equal numbers of men and women stand.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 107.

Women , Men , People , Way

“Who causes war? War is caused by our primal fear of not surviving. This is a two-sex fear. And because the fear is so primal, we are easily seduced into exaggerating the evil intent of anyone [who] might threaten our survival. Why? One mistake of underestimating a threat could leave everyone wiped out; many mistakes of overestimating would just leave men wiped out.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 142.

Men , War , Fear , Sex

“Minimizing the role of sexual attraction in rape denies our responsibility for reinforcing men's addiction to female sexual beauty and then depriving men of what we've helped addict them to.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 311.

Men , Beauty , Help

“The worst aspect of dating from the perspective of many men is how dating can feel to a man like robbery by social custom – the social custom of him taking money out of his pocket, giving it to her, and calling it a date. To a young man, the worst dates feel like being robbed and rejected. Boys risk death to avoid rejection”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

e.g., by joining the Army
Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 314.

Death , Men , Money , Feeling

“In brief, we do more research on men in prison, men in the military, and men in general than we do on women for the same reason we do more research on rats than we do on humans.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 189.

Women , Men

“He gets sex, she gets sex; if that is considered unequal, no wonder men are afraid of commitment.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 240.

Men , Sex