Warren Farrell: Trending quotes (page 6)

“If there is one quality that I find is more essential to a successful and happy life than any other, it is empathy. It is at the core of family stability and love. I’ve never had a couple come to me and say, “I want a divorce; my partner understands me.””

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 30.

Love , Life , Family , Understanding

“[H]umans tend to start the process of change by acknowledging themselves—thus blacks asserted black pride and black is beautiful; women declared I am woman, I am strong; men are saying I am man, I am okay. After a quarter of a century of male bashing, that’s not a bad start.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part IV: Where do we go from here, p. 361.

Women , Men , Beauty , Strong

“Both sexes allow men dentists inside our mouths, but, well, have you ever let a man who is a dental hygienist inside your mouth? The man must earn his way to our private places in a way not required of a woman--he must become the doctor or the dentist, or forget it.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 181.

Men , Sex , Way , Forgetting

“My first conflict with NOW erupted in the mid-’70s when NOW chapters increasingly rejected father involvement by rejecting shared parent time as the preferred arrangement after divorce.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 126.

Parent , Time

“Together, we came to understand how we beg men to express feelings, but then when men do express feelings, we call it sexism, male chauvinism, or backlash.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. xxvii.

Men , Feeling , Understanding

“Most women’s ideal is to not be sexual until nine conditions are met: physical attraction; respect; emotional compatibility; intelligence; singleness; success (or potential ); being asked out; being paid for; and the man risking rejection by initiating the first kiss…. Men want sex as long as only one condition is met—physical attraction.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 13.

Women , Men , Sex , Intelligence

“The less our sons our trusted, the less women are able to really love them, and the more women feel entitled to use them as wallets.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 98.

Love , Women , Feeling

“When we add the devaluation of male values to the demonizing of male sexuality, many boys feel like a pervert before they know who they are.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 103.

Feeling , Boy

“Both sexes work on their lines before they appear onstage. His lines are a lifetime of work; her introductory 'line' is her appearance--or her lack of lines. Just as careers give men power, so beauty gives women power. But just as the comparison between herself and the most beautiful women makes a woman feel powerless, so the comparison between himself and the most successful men makes a man feel powerless.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 106.

Women , Men , Beauty , Sex

“Perhaps the most prevailing expectation of men is our Superman expectation: the fear we are merely Clark Kents who won't be accepted unless we are a Superman.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 96.

Men , Fear

“The belief that men don’t need help is part of the problem.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Men , Problem , Help , Parting

“Our love for children is so immediate in part because we feel their powerlessness immediately; conversely, part of the way we deny our love for men is by denying men’s powerlessness. Too often we have confused love for men with respect for them, especially for their power to take care of us---which is really just love for ourselves.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 360.

Love , Men , Children , Way

“The function of gossip is to create an “in group” bond by creating an “out group” enemy.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

“We often think that when a man insults another man by calling him a “girl,” the insult reflects a contempt for women. No. It reflects a contempt for any man who is unwilling to make himself strong enough to protect someone as precious as a woman.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Girl , Thinking , Strong

“From the male perspective, when commitment is associated with diamonds and mortgages, promises of love can feel like promises of payment.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 103.

Love , Feeling

“Men’s immediate path from the Insanity Track to the Sanity Track is in demanding that both sexes have the freedom to strike a balance between homeplace and workplace. Men must expect their wives to financially support them to be fathers as much as they now financially support their wives to be mothers. Women must have our approval to marry the warrior of love rather than the warrior of money.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 212.

Love , Women , Men , Money

“What’s true is that everyone is uncomfortable with expressing anger and being critical. Anger and criticism generates rejection. And everyone hates rejection.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 21.

Hate , Anger

“Look under the “Love and Friendship” section and see dozens of cards designed for women to send to women, most bashing men, and virtually none saying anything loving about men.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Love , Women , Men , Friendship

“When a government subsidy deprives the child of its dad the government is really subsidizing child abuse.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 348.

“Options allow a woman to tailor her role to her personality, but if a man expects to provide well, he expects to wear a suit, not to wear what suits him.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 183.

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