Warren Farrell: Trending quotes (page 20)

“When either sex suppresses the expression of feelings, it’s almost always b/c they don’t feel there is a safe environment to express them.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 16.

Sex , Feeling

“ITEM: The Mike Tyson trial. The hotel in which the jury is sequestered goes ablaze. Two firefighters die saving its occupants. The trial of Mike Tyson made us increasingly aware of men-as-rapists. The firefighters' deaths did not make us increasingly aware of men-as-saviors. We were more aware of one man doing harm than of two men saving…”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part 1: The Myth of Male Power, p. 36.

Death , Men

“By the mid-’90s, the anger at men had become so palpable that even sedate publications like The Economist were characterizing women’s vs. men’s workload as “A woman’s work is never done; a man is drunk from sun to sun.””

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Men , Sun , Anger

“After a conflict, women are not only more likely to turn to other womenfriends for support, but are nine times more likely to be with their children should conflict become divorce.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Children , Support , Time

“When I was doing a book tour in Japan for Why Men Are The Way They Are, I was told of an institution called the snack. The snack works like this: A man is coming home from work, and has had a bad day. He doesn’t feel that his wife wants to hear about it, so he pays between $50 and $80 for a snack —a sandwich and a drink and an attractive woman who will listen empathetically to him—sort of a beautiful psychologist with refreshments. No men need apply.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 198.

Men , Books , Beauty , Way

“The most unacknowledged spending expectation among women is the amount of time spent by single mothers caring for children, not only physically, but psychologically. It is my feeling that only a small percentage of a mother’s time is normally compensated for by child support, given what a woman could make adding these hours to workforce hours… It is why women who have never been married and never had children earn so much more in the workplace than women who have had children.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 222.

Women , Children , Feeling , Support

“Parade magazine announces that 40 million Soviet men were killed between 1914 and 1945. The magazine’s headline reads ‘Short End of the Stick’. Because men died? No. The women were seen as getting the short end of the stick because they were stuck with factory and street-cleaner positions the men weren’t around to do.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 145.

Women , Men , Reading

“Only when a woman shares male risks can she really begin to understand men.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 355.

Men , Understanding

“The best way to use these lists to replace anger with love in real life is to nurture each other by doing for your partner what your partner normally does for you.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Love , Life , Way , Anger

“Both sexes had an unconscious investment in keeping men from expressing feelings of fear and vulnerability.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Men , Fear , Sex , Feeling

“When we don't take years of experience into account, it is easy for a woman to become discouraged when she reads headlines such as 'Study of TV News Directors Finds Discrimination Against Women.' When a woman in the mid-1980's read that TV news directors who were women got paid about 27% less than men directors, it might have made her avoid the field… If, on the other hand, a headline more accurately reflecting the study's core findings, read 'Female Managers Become TV News Directors Three Times as Quickly as Men,' well, that would have made a woman feel wanted… In brief, the road to higher pay is a toll road. But at this point in history, there are female tollbooths and male tollbooths, and the toll charged to women is lower. This should encourage every woman who wishes to embark on the road to higher pay to take it while the tolls are still low, and every man who wishes to be with his children--or just wishes to support the career-focused woman he loves--to be aware that there was never a better time to be a great dad and go with your wife's flow.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 85-87.

Love , Women , Men , Children

“Here’s the pay paradox that Why Men Earn More explains: Men earn more money, therefore men have more power; and men earn more money, therefore men have less power (earning more money as an obligation, not an option). The opposite is true for women: Women earn less money, therefore women have less power; and women earn less money, therefore women have more power”

Warren Farrell

the option to raise children, or to not take a hazardous job
Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 11.

Women , Men , Money , Children

“As feminism made this transition from equal opportunity to unequal opportunism, I made my transition from supporter to critic. But in my inner psyche, there was no transition: I went from supporter of equality to supporter of equality.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 167.

Support

“Evenings of paying to be rejected can feel like a male version of date rape.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 314.

Feeling

“Since 1954, then, approximately 70,000 women have murdered; their victims include about 60,000 men, but, as we saw in the second Item of this chapter, not one woman has been executed after killing only a man. For nearly four decades now, we have become increasingly protective of women and decreasingly protective of men—even if that boy is a legal minor, as was Heath Wilkins.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, p. 244.

Women , Men , Boy

“There is virtually no funding to study the validity of the more muted complaints of men: to study when a false accusation is being used as a weapon to keep the children from dad; or when the child is being bad-mouthed by the other parent; or when access to the child is being prevented; or when statistics about deadbeat dads are including men who are dead, unemployed, or denied their children; or when men are victims of domestic violence.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 241.

Men , Children , Parent , Study

“When we suggest that men are at the top because men discriminate, we miss the point. Men are at the top of the work hierarchy because work has been primarily men's responsibility.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 150.

Men

“We have forgotten that before we began calling this date rape and date fraud, we called it exciting.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part III: Government as substitute husband, pp. 314-315.

Fraud

“The hard part (of communication) is hearing criticism so it can be easily given.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 38.

Communication , Parting

“The more chauvinist the country, the more it protects women. And therefore the more it limits women. Like the United States, [Italy, Spain, and Denmark] give women options without obligations. These countries are, therefore, still male chauvinist… The degree to which a country is emancipated is the degree to which it frees men from the obligation to protect women and socializes women to equally protect men.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 136.

Women , Men , Country