Warren Farrell: Trending quotes (page 13)

“In the past, both sexes were anxious about sex and pregnancy. Now the pill minimizes her anxiety and condoms increase his. Now the pimple faced boy must still risk rejection while also overcoming his own fear of herpes and AIDS and reassuring her there is nothing to fear. He must still do the sexual risk-taking, but now he can be put in jail if he takes risks too quickly or be called a wimp if he doesn’t take them quickly enough.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 168.

Fear , Sex , Boy , Past

“In brief, when women batter, men’s first priority is to support the women and help them change; when men batter, women’s first priority is to escape the men and put them in prison.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Men , Support , Change

“When men in relationships have more money, we say they have the power. When women in relationships have more money, we say they are being used.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 218.

Women , Men , Money

“Whether in a South African coal mine, on an Alaskan fishing boat, or in the American military, men's protective instinct toward women, and women's protective instinct toward themselves (and children) keeps men more disposable than women. Here's an example of the dynamic at work in the military. At the military's SERE (survival, evasion, resistance, and escape) schools, concern about the well-being of women was so prevalent among male students that trainers now work to desensitize men to sexual assault and other abuse of women lest their sensitivity be used against them in war. We think of women in the military as being safer in part because they are still prohibited from the most dangerous assignments. But this prohibition is just a reflection of the traditional male's instinct to protect women.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 33.

Women , Men , War , Children

“If organized team sports develop managerial skills for a corporate setting, pickup team sports are more like training to be an entrepreneur… Pickup team sports are still about 99% male. That is, this form of preparation to be an entrepreneur is about 99% male socialization. I believe this is one of many contributors to why men who run their own business earn twice what their female counterparts earn.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 156.

Men , Business , Sport , Training

“Women’s vulnerability confessing their desire to see men as a success object is matched by men’s confession of compulsiveness of sexual desire for women.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. xxvi.

Women , Men , Success

“Because men complained less, we made the false assumption that the complaints women experienced were only women’s complaints and, therefore, only women’s problems. Which created the rationale for women’s problems to be solved – or at least addressed – by public policy.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Men , Problem , Falseness

“The motto of feminists: “There is never an excuse for hitting a woman.” Shouldn’t it be, “There is never an excuse for hitting.”?”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

“Men tend to put all their emotional eggs in the basket of their wives (or womenfriends), it is difficult for a man to communicate feelings of disappointment to his wife because, if she withdraws, it feels to him like his entire emotional support system has collapsed.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Men , Disappointment , Feeling , Communication

“Men are not only women's unpaid bodyguards, they actually pay to be a woman's bodyguard.”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 230.

Women , Men

“We often hear that mothers do the caring; fathers just do the playing. This is a false dichotomy -- even a dangerous one -- because fathers’ particular style of play involves both a conscious focus on teaching and, as the research is now showing, is instructive to children even when it is not consciously designed to be so.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 57.

Children , Falseness

“One grand fallacy of the women's movement: Expecting work to mean "power" and "self-fulfillment."”

Warren Farrell book The Myth of Male Power

Source: The Myth of Male Power (1993), Part II: The Glass Cellars of the disposable sex, p. 232.

Women

“Tone of voice is more crucial than words.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 25.

“Even men who share their personal experiences find that, instead of empathy, they get the response Dear Abby gave this man: “Women have it worse.” This belief is so strong that over the past quarter century, women’s old fantasy of marrying a man-as-protector has been tainted by women’s new nightmare of husband-as-batterer.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Women , Men , Strong , Past

“Empathy for women is an attribute of masculinity. When men play the protector role they are trying to save a woman from grief or pain. If they had no glimpse of her grief or pain, they wouldn’t know when to protect.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000), p. 33.

Women , Men , Pain

“Unemployment, of course, sends the economy into a recession, creating more unemployment. Ironically, unemployment hurts women more than men. Feminists argue that’s because of sex discrimination: women are the last to be hired and the first to be fired. Correct on the outcome; wrong on the reason. We hire first what we need most, and we fire first what we need least. That’s why you hire the garbage collector first, and fire him last. Men may be hired first and fired last because more men are willing to do society’s dirty work and hazardous work for a lower price.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Earn More (2005), p. 212.

Women , Men , Sex , Hurt

“When men give lines, women learn to not trust men. When women wear makeup, men learn to not trust women. Male lines and female makeup are divorce training.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988), p. 71-72.

Women , Men , Learning , Training

“Societies in which men were unwilling to dispose of themselves in war were societies that usually got disposed of. Societies that were protected were protected by killers, which is why I call the traditional role of men the role of killer-protector.”

Warren Farrell

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)

Men , War

“We are at a unique moment in history -- when a woman’s body is affected, we say the choice is hers; but when a boy’s body is affected, we say the choice is not his -- the law requires our 18 year old sons to register for the draft, and therefore potential death-if-needed.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 132.

Death , Law , History , Boy

“On an unconscious level, the demonization of sexuality usually implies the demonization of males and the victimization of females.”

Warren Farrell

Source: Father and Child Reunion (2001), p. 97.