Colette Dowling: Dependent

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“Women are brought up to depend on a man and to feel naked and frightened without one. We have been taught to believe that as females we cannot stand alone, that we are too fragile, too delicate, too needful of protection.”

Colette Dowling

"The Cinderella Syndrome" http://www.nytimes.com/1981/03/22/magazine/the-cinderella-syndrome.html?pagewanted=all, The New York Times (22 March 1981)

“We have only one real shot at "liberation," and that is to emancipate ourselves from within. It is the thesis of this book that personal, psychological dependency—the deep wish to be taken care of by others—is the chief force holding women down today. I call this "The Cinderella Complex"—a network of largely repressed attitudes and fears that keeps women in a kind of half-light, retreating from the full use of their minds and creativity. Like Cinderella, women today are still waiting for something external to "transform their lives."”

Colette Dowling

Source: The Cinderella Complex: Women's Hidden Fear of Independence (1981), p. 31

“Only after she begins to disengage from her belief in her own helplessness can she break out of the vicious cycle of dependency and its brutal effect in her life.”

Colette Dowling

Source: The Cinderella Complex: Women's Hidden Fear of Independence (1981), p. 114

“[Women] were not trained for freedom at all, but for its categorical opposite—dependency.”

Colette Dowling

Source: The Cinderella Complex: Women's Hidden Fear of Independence (1981), p. 3