“There is a luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves, we feel that no one else has a right to blame us. It is the confession, not the priest, that gives us absolution.”

—  Oscar Wilde, book The Picture of Dorian Gray

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Irish writer and poet 1854–1900

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