“To try curing someone of a "vice," of what is the deepest thing he has, is to attack his very being, and this is indeed how he himself understands it, since he will never forgive you for wanting him to destroy himself in your way and not his.”

— Emil M. Cioran

Drawn and Quartered (1983)

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Romanian philosopher and essayist 1911–1995

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