“There can be — there ought to be — no medium course; a love-affair is either sober earnest or contemptible folly, if not wickedness: to gossip about it is, in the first instance, intrusive, unkind, or dangerous; in the second, simply silly.”

— Dinah Craik

Source: A Woman's Thoughts About Women (1858), Ch. 8

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English novelist and poet 1826–1887

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Source: A Woman's Thoughts About Women (1858), Ch. 8

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