“People do not see that the main question is not : "Am I loved?" which is to a large extent the question : "Am I approved of? Am I protected? Am I admired?" The main question is: "Can I love?”

— Erich Fromm

Source: Love, Sexuality and Matriarchy: About Gender

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German social psychologist and psychoanalyst 1900–1980

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