“Love is an activity, not a passive affect; it is a “standing in,” not a “falling for.” In the most general way, the active character of love can be described by stating that love is primarily giving, not receiving.”

—  Erich Fromm, book The Art of Loving

Source: The Art of Loving

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German social psychologist and psychoanalyst 1900–1980

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