

“You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.”
Variant: You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice...
Source: The Rose That Grew from Concrete
“You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.”
Variant: You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice...
“Women are like tea bags. You never know how strong they are until you put them in hot water.”
Another quote often attributed to her without an original source in her writings, as in The Wit and Wisdom of Eleanor Roosevelt (1996), p. 199. But once again archivists have not been able to find the quote in any of her writings, see the comment from Ralph Keyes in The Quote Verifier above.
A very similar remark was attributed to Nancy Reagan, in The Observer (29 March 1981): "A woman is like a teabag — only in hot water do you realize how strong she is."
Variants:
A woman is like a teabag. You never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water.
A woman is like a tea bag, you can not tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.
A woman is like a tea bag; you can't tell how strong she is and how much to trust her until you put her in hot water.
Disputed
“A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water. ”
Life and Writings, Young Italy; reported in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 333
“He knew you can't really be strong until you can see a funny side of things.”
Variant: You can't really be strong until you can see a funny side to things.
Source: One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest
“A woman is like a teabag. You can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.”
Interview with ABC News, as quoted by Hilary Clinton.
2000s
“It’s not about how strong you were back then, it is about how strong you are right here right now.”
Unmeasured Strength (2011)