“What a wretched sort of deception, when a man so lies to his friends that he dupes himself.”

—  Gottfried von Straßburg , book Tristan

Ez ist ein armer trügesite,
der vriunden alsô liuget,
daz er sich selben triuget.
Source: Tristan, Line 12308

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Ez ist ein armer trügesite, der vriunden alsô liuget, daz er sich selben triuget.

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medieval German poet 1180–1215

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