“I am, I must confess, suspicious of those who denounce others for having "too much" sex. At what point does a "healthy" amount become "too much"? There are, of course, those who suffer because their desire for sex has become compulsive; in their cases the drive (loneliness, guilt) is at fault, not the activity as such.”

— Edmund White

San Francisco (p. 37).
States of Desire: Travels in Gay America (1980)

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American novelist and LGBT essayist 1940

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