“Maybe there's something you're afraid to say, or someone you're afraid to love, or somewhere you're afraid to go.
It's gonna hurt. It's gonna hurt because it matters.”

“We hurt people that love us, love people that hurt us.”

“Two things in life I consider most important: Making love and making people laugh. If you could combine both, you're onto a good thing. Or else you're rather bad at it.”

“True love does not hurt, attachments do.”

“When we try to help people, we have to be aware: are we doing it for them, or are we doing it because we want their approval?
If you're doing it for them, just be there with them, and for them, in a space of love.”

“Become your own soulmate, first. The love you're waiting on someone else to give you is a desire to know yourself. It is projection of wanting to see yourself more kindly, through your someone else's eyes. The very way you most long to be loved is the way you need to love yourself to see your own potential, to care for yourself, to hear the sound of your own approval, to build a life you are proud of. Until you are your own soulmate, you will be left asking others to fill needs they were never meant to meet.”

“When someone tells you, “I love you,” and then you feel, “Oh, I must be worthy after all,” that’s an illusion. That’s not true. Or someone says, “I hate you,” and you think, “Oh, God, I knew it; I’m not very worthy,” that’s not true either. Neither one of these thoughts hold any intrinsic reality. They are an overlay. When someone says, “I love you,” he is telling you about himself, not you. When someone says, “I hate you,” she is telling you about herself, not you. World views are self views—literally.”

“No offence but i think a lot of us me included don’t actually want romantic love as badly as we think and really are just lonely and crave a closeness and intimacy that feels out of reach in friendships because of society’s emphasis on marriage and the nuclear family so we project that into the never ending search for a perfect love and a soulmate when really we all just want to mean something to someone.”

“To love someone is firstly to confess: I'm prepared to be devastated by you.”

“Fall in love with someone who is both your safe place and your biggest adventure.”