“We often think we are of great importance to certain people; that they must be thinking of us and our affairs, that they watch our actions and shape their course accordingly. In general it is not so; we are quite mistaken.”

— Jean Ingelow

Source: Don John (1881), Ch. 12, p. 140.

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British writer 1820–1897

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