“They’re your children. The more you try to force them to be like you, the more they’re going to flare off in different directions like wild fireworks, the more they’re going to surprise and disappoint you.”

— Alastair Reynolds , book House of Suns

Introduction to Part 8 (pp. 485-486)
House of Suns (2008)

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