“It's very important to decode your own messages, like saying "I feel angry" instead of kicking the cat, and people who learn to do this find they are misunderstood less often and, as a fringe benefit, are clawed by fewer cats.”

—  Merle Shain

Some Men are More Perfect Than Others (1973)

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Canadian writer 1935–1989

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