“If you only try to please others, you're going to resent those people you're trying to please; the ones who are often closest to you. If you choose a path that you yourself want to take, then you're going to be much kinder to the people in your life.”
Source: Plenty: A Collection of Sarah McLachlan's Favorite Recipes
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Sarah McLachlan 28
Canadian musician, singer, and songwriter 1968Related quotes
Source: As quoted in "Voicing With a Heart"

Daybreak http://books.google.com/books?id=Imte1JcsQ64C&q=%22You+don't+get+to+choose+how+you're+going+to+die+Or+when+You+can+only+decide+how+you're+going+to+live+Now%22&pg=PA135#v=onepage (1968)
Variant or paraphrase: You can't decide how you're going to die. Or when. What you can decide is how you're going to live now.
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