Deb Caletti citations

“Things that came apart could be put together again, but never exactly the same.”

“That's what people do who love you. They put their arms around you and love you when you're not so lovable.”

“It was one of those times you feel a sense of loss, even though you didn't have something in the first place. I guess that's what disappointment is- a sense of loss for something you never had.”

“The loneliness you feel with another person, the wrong person, is the loneliest of all.”

“It made me wonder how many times we forgive just because we don't want to lose someone, even if they don't deserve our forgiveness.”

“Rejection, though--it could make the loss of someone you weren't even that crazy about feel gut wrenching and world ending.”

“I shouldn't have to be a liar to make someone love me. I shouldn't be so afraid of losing someone that I'll do anything to make them stay.”

“If letting go, if letting people and things work themselves out in the way that they needed to without your help was the most important thing, then it was also the hardest.”

“We should not give away a moment to anyone who does not deserve it.”

“If you look up "charming" in the dictionary, you'll see that it not only has references to strong attraction, but to spells and magic. Then again, what are liars if not great magicians?”

“It's good to let God pick a man for you. We don't do so well when we pick them ourselves. They end up lipsticks in a drawer, all those wrong colors you thought looked so good in the package.”

“Those questions you have? Whether he's the one, whether you feel about him the way you should, or whether the relationship is going okay? When you're not sure whether you're in love with someone or not, the answer is not.”

“And pity--people who inspire it in you are actually very powerful people. To get someone else to take care of you, to feel sorry for you--that takes a lot of strength, smarts, manipulation. Very powerful people.”

“When what you want is a relationship, and not a person, get a dog.”

“People are secretive when they have secrets.”

“I guess forgiveness, like happiness, isn’t a final destination. You don’t one day get there and get to stay.”

“Love can come when you're already who you are, when you're filled with you. Not when you look to someone else to fill the empty space.”

“Are you getting your period?" She narrows her eyes.
No! God. I hate that. I hate when every negative act is blamed on your period." Sometimes bitchiness is just bitchiness, happily unattached to anything hormonal. It should get full credit.”

“It took me years to figure out that upset was upset, and tumultuousness was not the same thing as passion. Love isn't drama.”

“The most basic and somehow forgettable thing is this: Love is not pain. Love is goodness. And real love--it's less shiny than solid and simple.”

“Sometimes that´s all you need…, to know it´s not broken. To know you’re still whole and that you’ll heal.”

“A lady I will be, but a man's accessory, his handbag, no thank you. I will not be someone's ornament. I will not just be someone's honey, baby, sweetheart.”

“I was like a chocolate in a box, looking well behaved and perfect in place, all the while harboring a secret center.”

“Marriage is like a well-built porch. If one of the two posts leans too much, the porch collapses. So each must be strong enough to stand on its own.”

“Once an asshole, always an asshole.”

“We can get so wrapped up in our own misconceptions that we miss the simple beauty of the truth.”

“But sometimes, too, you have this little feeling of knowing, this fuzzy, gnawing sense that someone will become a major something in your life. You just know that theirs will be a life you will enter and become a part of.”

“Sometimes good choices are really bad ones, wrapped up in so much fear you can't even see straight.”

“Funny the only two times we use the phrase "seeing someone" are when we are referring to being in a a relationship or getting psychological help.”