Deb Caletti: Thing

“If letting go, if letting people and things work themselves out in the way that they needed to without your help was the most important thing, then it was also the hardest.”

“It took me years to figure out that upset was upset, and tumultuousness was not the same thing as passion. Love isn't drama.”

“The most basic and somehow forgettable thing is this: Love is not pain. Love is goodness. And real love--it's less shiny than solid and simple.”

“You can want one thing and have a secret wish for its opposite.”

“It's shocking the things we call love.”

“Darkness does this. It finds all the places you are hiding in. It finds all the things you are holding onto tightly and makes you let go.”

“It was all the things you could never understand and could never possess that made you ache.”

“A person could leave you so quickly. So much history and time and memories, but they snuck away from you, and other things took their place. How could you hold on? Wait. A bigger question. The biggest. How could you hold on and
let go?”

“… wanting things for the wrong reasons can turn anyone's life into a marshmallow on a stick over a hot fire: impossibly messy and eventually consumed, one way or another.”

“I've wished for things and never really had the chance… It's time to stop dreaming and do something about it. You've got to know what you want, then… go.”

“The most basic and somehow forgettable thing is this: Love is not pain. Love is goodness.”

“I began to learn the importance of lifting things up and looking underneath.”

“Maybe it was wrong, or maybe impossible, but I wanted the truth to be one thing. One solid thing.”