Warren Farrell citations

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“Many of the qualities your son develops to kill in war—or be a hero at work—undermine the qualities it takes to love at home.”

“The pay of the volunteer fireman? Praise. Respect. Purpose.”

“In The Deadliest Catch, the death the men face is the source of entertainment, but not of concern.”

“Your son learns the “hero paradox”: to value himself by not valuing himself.”

“The word hero derives from the root *ser-, from which we also get the word “servant.””

“The women’s movement warned every girl how marriage can seduce her to make a sacrifice of her career. But no one warned every boy how marriage can seduce him to make a sacrifice in his career.”

“Your son’s heroes didn’t climb traditional ladders—they built their own.”

“Your son may simultaneously feel that the male role is pressuring him to feel obligated to earn money someone else spends while he dies sooner.”

“Whether or not we know our dad, we have a relationship with him. The relationship in our mind is our relationship.”

“Fatherhood was about your dad trading in the old glint in his eye—what he loved to do—for the new glint in his eye: his love for you.”

“The road to high pay is a toll road.”

“If he followed his bliss, it’s the money you’d miss.”

“Whether we call it ikigai or sense of purpose, when we pursue what we believe gives life meaning, it gives us life.”

“The more a boy represses his feelings and puts armor around his heart, the harder it is to open our hearts to him.”

“To win wars, we had to train our sons to be disposable. We honored boys if they died so we could live. We called them heroes.”

“Sensitivity to the death and suffering of boys and men is in competition with our survival instinct.”