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“Your emotions are a translation, informing you at all moments of the day of where you stand energetically in relation to your higher self. When you are preventing the focused energy of your higher self, you quickly develop ailments of all kinds. When you create a lack of that energy flowing through you, you make yourself a match to illness, to accidents, and to absence instead of abundance and health.”

“Healing will happen one step at a time and the better it gets, the better it gets.”

“Simply put, anger feels better than powerlessness. That is why it benefits people to get angry. And independence feels better than powerless victimhood. That is why it benefits people to get independent. But if our progression stops there, we will never achieve true happiness and our civilization will never achieve true alignment.”

“Having dysfunction within you does not make you bad. It makes you a byproduct of your environment. It makes you a person full of adaptations, some of which do more harm than good… just like the rest of us.”

“When we are victimized, we feel the urge to victimize those who have hurt us in return. This is natural. It is a compulsion to force them to connect with us through empathy.”

“Everything that is ever done is done for one reason and one reason only, because the doer thinks they will feel better in the doing of it.”

“School is a place that adds to emotional pain for most children alive today. It is even more so the case for the two most isolated kids in school: 1. The social outcasts who are isolated in every way. 2. The social actors who are surrounded by other kids, but no one sees them because they are in a relationship not with them, but with the role they play.”

“When I date someone, I think long term. What's the point of dating someone if you only want them temporarily?”

“It is ok to feel negative. In fact it's ok to feel any emotion you are currently experiencing. Experience the negative emotions but don't live them.”

“It's ok to feel any emotion you are allow yourself to experiencing.”

“Most of us struggle for years against beliefs that have been deeply rooted in our being. We do everything we can think of to try to resist and fight against the beliefs when all we really need to do is sit down and directly pull these roots up so we can see them clearly and then replace them. It may be a bit time consuming, but look at it this way… you have the choice to struggle against them every day of your busy life or to take an hour or two of your time and focus specifically on doing the work necessary to alter them for good so you no longer have to struggle against them.”

“When people are afraid, people become narcissistic. It is not that people are ‘bad’ for doing this. It is simply that the focus naturally shifts to self-preservation. It is a knee jerk reaction… One that is biologically wired into us.”

“When you lose someone or something that you care about and as a result you feel sad or anxious or powerless, it isn't dysfunctional or pathological, it's normal.”

“Self-sacrifice does not actually exist in this universe. If we accepted that, there would soon be no more codependency in human society.”

“When we have commited to a relationship, we have commited to communication.”

“Resistance comes in the form of any thought, belief, word, desire or action that pulls AGAINST the thing you want. Select what you want and then watch every thought you think and with each one, decide whether that thought pulls towards or against the thing you want. If it pulls in the direction of what you want, it will feel like relief internally. If it pulls against what you want, it will feel like tension or pressure internally.”

“So often, the family that is intent on trying to “rescue” one of its members from something doesn't see how it is the family itself that has created and re-enforced the susceptibility and vulnerability to the very thing that they are intent on rescuing that member from.”

“Incompatibility in a relationship is not about being different. Many differences are workable and can be easily accommodated in a relationship. In fact, many differences make people in a relationship even more compatible. Incompatibility is the condition of two things being different in a way that is specifically uncomplimentary to the degree that the specific difference makes them incapable of coexisting harmoniously.”

“Most people just don’t want to accept the reality of incompatibility. But refusing to accept incompatibility will lead you straight down the road to relationship hell.”