hana77

“Become your own soulmate, first. The love you're waiting on someone else to give you is a desire to know yourself. It is projection of wanting to see yourself more kindly, through your someone else's eyes. The very way you most long to be loved is the way you need to love yourself to see your own potential, to care for yourself, to hear the sound of your own approval, to build a life you are proud of. Until you are your own soulmate, you will be left asking others to fill needs they were never meant to meet.”

“What I’m learning is that growth is ugly.

It’s not bubble baths and self-help books that teach you how to love yourself.

It’s fighting, kicking and screaming against the self-doubt that weighs you down.

It’s panicking at the possibility of failure while still moving forward anyway.

It’s slowly peeling out of your skin and feeling the tenderness of a touch without armour.

The process of growth is ugly, but it’s the product that makes it worthwhile.”

“To love someone is firstly to confess: I'm prepared to be devastated by you.”

“And maybe that was love. Being so vulnerable and allowing someone else in so far they could hurt you, but they also give you everything.”

“Half of life is lost in charming others.
The other half is lost in going through anxieties caused by others.
Leave this play. You have played enough.”

“Appear as you are, be as you appear.”

“The enemy is us.”

“I am the villain in my own life.”

“While they all fall in love with her smile she waits for one who will fall in love with her scars.”

“You love that which you can lose.”

“Love is a feeling we can experience but never explain.”

“To love someone long-term is to attend a thousand funerals of the people they used to be. The people they're too exhausted to be any longer. The people they grew out of, the people they never ended up growing into. We so badly want the people we love to get their spark back when it burns out, to become speedily found when they are lost. But it is not our job to hold anyone accountable to the people they used to be. It is our job to travel with them between each version and to honour what emerges along the way. Sometimes it will be an even more luminescent flame. Sometimes it will be a flicker that temporarily floods the room with a perfect and necessary darkness.”

“People are strange, they neither wish to live nor die.”

“Nobody wants to love. Everybody wants to be loved.”

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.”

“If a person has no hope, he is truly blessed because that person has no fear of failure.”

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”

“Don't be so thirsty for oppurtunity that you drink for every cup handed to you. That's how you get poisoned.”

“Do not love half lovers
Do not entertain half friends
Do not live half a life
and do not die a half death
If you choose silence, then be silent
When you speak, do so until you are finished
Do not silence yourself to say something
And do not speak to be silent
If you accept, then express it bluntly
Do not mask it
If you refuse then be clear about it
for an ambiguous refusal is but a weak acceptance
Do not accept half a solution
Do not believe half truths
Do not dream half a dream
Do not fantasize about half hopes
Half the way will get you no where
Half an idea will bear you no results
Half a life is a life you didn't live,
A word you have not said
A smile you postponed
A love you have not had
A friendship you did not know
The half is a mere moment of inability
but you are able for you are not half a being
You are a whole that exists to live a life
not half a life.”