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“You cannot heal your way to a world where negativity doesn't exist, because it always will. You cannot heal your way into the most physically perfect version of yourself, because that's not who you were born and built to be. You cannot heal your way out of every worry, issue, struggle, grief, sadness, or down day, because that's not the point of being alive. The point of healing is not to return to a place where everything is perfect, it is to develop the ability to respond to what's imperfect. You cannot heal your way out of being human, and you were never supposed to.”

“The protection of your safety and health is more important than the role others want you to play in their chaos.”

“Your initial reaction is usually your past trying to impose itself on your present.”

“You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world… but you do have a say in who hurts you.”

“The one thing I know for sure is that feelings are rarely mutual, so when they are, drop everything, forget belongings and expectations, forget the games, the two days between texts, the hard to gets because this is it, this is what the entire world is after and you've stumbled upon it by chance, by accident.”

“It was never really love,
but we carried the same scars,
and sometimes that is close enough.”

“I am learning to say Yes. To be daring and spontaneous. To hurl myself into people and places and moments without hesitation or second-guessing myself. To challenge my anxieties, confront my fears, and trust unwaveringly in chance and fate to lead me to where I am supposed to be.”

“Yes. Relationships are hard work. We have to work hard to not behave like a child when we're triggered. We have to work hard to not allow our childhood dictate our behavior. We have to work hard to be accountable when we want to blame. This is why if you want a relationship, you better be ready to open up, be brave, and break your patterns. Because even with the right person you'll have to face your demons.”

“A relationship is meant to increase the quality of our lives, not rescue us from the uncertainty of our lives.”

“That's all we want. In the end. To be acknowledged. And appreciated. And to be told we've been missed. And loved.”

“Maybe what you need is someone to talk to. Someone who'll make you feel understood even if they really don't understand you. Someone who's willing to listen. Who's willing to just be there for you even if they have nothing meaningful to say. Maybe that's what you really need. A friend. Someone who's not there to fix you but willing to cheer and support you… while you figure things out and heal on your own.”

“It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one's germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness!”

“He was always looking for new and interesting ways to destroy himself.”

“It's simple. I need to be loved. I need to be missed. I need to know that I'm thought of, that someone is thinking of me in the middle of the day, even if it's for a split second - wondering what it is I'm doing that very moment and if I'm thinking about them the same way.”

“We can forget that prayer is not about doing something, but rather about being with Someone. Prayer is an encounter. Mother Teresa would tell her novices that when they entered the chapel, they should say to Jesus: “Here I am, Lord. Love me.” Prayer is not rattling off words, nor a simple psychological activity, nor punching the clock, nor magic, nor ritual words and postures. It is not a monologue where we speak at God, but a dialogue where we converse with Him who is closer to us than we are to ourselves. Prayer is about falling head-over-heels in love with the God who is head-over-heels in love with us.”